On Wednesday, Married at First Sight‘s Ryan Oubre, one-half of the show’s first very interracial couple, took to his Instagram account to address the concerns and questions viewers about his divorce.
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He met Clara Berghaus on the show and they got married. Oubre was very outspoken on the show about his racial identity via his clothing, often wearing Black Lives Matter shirts.
In a lengthy IG post captioned , “Drop your questions in the comments and I’ll respond to what I can. Thanks for reading,” Oubre gives a very transparent account of how the two ended up severing their relationship.
Oubre begins his statement saying he had “several months to reflect on a very challenging moment in my life… I’ve decided to share my thoughts."
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"You can't truly be open to marry another race and not want to marry their culture (or at least at the minimum understand it)," he wrote.
“Black experience and Black culture are not monolithic, there is no one size fits all shoe. It’s ever-evolving and ever-changing with time,” the post reads.
Oubre continues, “What I can say is: walking into a family gathering and not speaking to anyone and scrolling through your phone will never fly and declining food (outside of a food allergy or avoidance) because you don’t like the way it looks won’t help either,” before adding that “choosing not to understand and educate yourself is a red flag,”
“By marrying into a different race/culture you inherently adopt parts of their identity. Most importantly, your kids 100% will, and your kids will need you to help navigate it,” Oubre wrote.
Oubre stated that while “avoided having such a complex conversation on camera,” he and Berhaus discussed those things in private.
Oubre hopes that his followers “never experience a divorce”, but if they must he wants them to have “the courage to do with what you feel is right after taking time to come to peace with that decision.”